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Psalm 139:13You formed my inmost being;you knit me in my mother’s womb.
I wasn’t going to do this one so soon – since it’s sooooo obvious what this one means, but it’s light of the Kermit Gosnell trial it seems like it is necessary. In a way, the feelings Hannah displays are contrary to what we want to display. But I think when you reflect on the film, you’ll see it might have been resolved if she’d been told her story from the beginning.
Our main character, Hannah collapses on stage. In an attempt to determine what caused it, many tests are run – which point to one cause of her issues – her birth. She was adopted after a failed abortion attempt. She then sets out on a journey with her friend and what they learn along the way helps her realize what life is really all about.
Have you ever felt unwanted? Hannah writes in her journal (which comes to light after this episode) that she feels “unwanted.” She was not told she was adopted until that moment, and certainly was never told that she was the product of a failed abortion or that she had a twin. There’s a couple of thoughts I have here… first, that even at such a young age, she may have felt the impact of what her biological mother tried to do. She may not have been conscious of it, but somehow she knew. Could this have been curtailed if her adoptive parents had been honest with her? Could that knowledge of being chosen, being wanted, help her get past what her biological mother did? There are also many people who never endured the tragedies Hannah survived, but still feel unwanted. Is there any way to help these lost souls?
What other ways do we feel unwanted? Obviously, there are many. When your teenage child says that he or she hates you, when you’re turned down by someone you have feelings for, or when you’re excluded from a gathering. How do you deal with those feelings of being unwanted? What insights can you offer to someone dealing with feelings of being unwanted?
“To be human is to be beautifully flawed” Wow… that it the nicest way of saying that we all mess up I think I’ve ever heard. Its true, as are the statements that follow it in the movie. We are “beautifully flawed.” A few years ago, I was at a family reunion. A couple of my teenage distant cousins were there obviously showing that they were expecting. I happened to be talking to some other relatives who commented about how those girls could let that happen, and how it was going to wreck their lives. My comment to them, was that if they’d aborted their babies, no one would have known about their little buns – but that by owning up and continuing – they were stronger and more courageous than they were being given credit for. And now, they have beautiful babies – the families have pitched in to help. Beauty has come out of a difficult – maybe even ugly situation. Sometimes really wonderful things come out of those flaws…
“When you hear something enough times, you start to believe it” In this case it’s referring to the “tissue” that the doctor kept telling the nurse that babies being aborted were. I wonder if many pro-choicers would really still be pro-choice if they actually saw the product of the abortions. When I look at today’s ultrasounds, where you really see a three-dimensional image of the baby – I wonder if people will start realizing it now. I wonder why someone would kill a baby that is born alive, despite the attempt to kill it, when babies are in such demand amongst those looking to adopt. I know there are abortion survivors out there. They aren’t “just tissue” any more than the rest of us are.
This same concept can be applied to our news sources and what we surround ourselves with. When all we see is trash, or surround ourselves with is trash, that is all we will believe. We have got to surround ourselves with good – and look for good in others. Remember the old adage, “I think, therefore I am.” We’ve got to think positive, and be aware of what’s going on around us.
Another point to be made here is about how we treat each other. “When you hear something enough times, you start to believe it.” If people area always telling you that you’re no good, you start to believe it after a while. Thus seems to be the point of trying to build a child’s self-esteem by telling them “you can do it” or otherwise reinforcing their talents and skills. We’ve got to build people up, not tear them down. We do, however, have to be careful. “Building up” does not mean spoil the child. I’m afraid too many mistake the two concepts.
“Only in forgiveness can we be free.” Matthew 16:19 tells us, “I will give you the keys to the kingdom of heaven. Whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven; and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” That makes it sound as thought we have power over others – which in some ways we do, but it’s that last part we should concentrate on. Staying intent on binding others to their sins isn’t good for us. Sort of like taking poison and expecting others to die from it. We have to forgive and leave the rest to God. It will be healthier for us mentally and spiritually. I’ll admit, I have problems with this one, especially when I’ve been wronged more than once by the same person or group… But, in the end, it’s up to God and I’ve got to let Him do what He feels is best.
Ultimately, although rare, babies born as early as twenty weeks gestation can survive. In looking at this film in light of the Gosnell case, it seems to me that too many people underestimate the sheer will to survive in babies. So when one hears the horrors of snipping spinal cords and drownings in the toilet, it is especially discouraging. Why, when people are paying thousands of dollars to adopt babies, so women feel like aborting is the only option? While we have to help young people understand the difference between right and wrong… we also have to help them understand that we will help them when they find themselves in such a position. If we want them to make the right choice, they have to know they can count on us, despite whatever disappointment we might feel that they didn’t make the right decision at the time the child was conceived.
Truth be known, this film probably needs another post to fully discuss all that it offers, but for now, know that it is a good clean film. It is however, very serious, and some of the discussions about the “procedure” may be too graphic for young ears.